Even though Larissa made Colt’s mom cry on this week’s 90 Day Fiance, she’s not the only target for the wrath of viewers.
Kalani’s sister and her father have both been the targets of intense fan criticism over how they treated Asuelu in the episode.
So Kalani took to social media to defend her family. She also took her social media private to block out the haters.
Kalani does not have time for haters who are coming after her family.
On this week’s episode, Asuelu met Kalani’s family and began his uphill battle towards being accepted.
It didn’t help that he took Kalani’s virginity and impregnated her while she was on vacation.
(That’s not a way to start things off on the right foot with someone’s deeply Mormon family, folks)
But Kalani’s sister also resented his sudden intrusion into the family — and the fact that he had cheated on Kalani.
Kalani’s dad had … other, more complicated concerns.
First, Kalani defended her sister, Kolini, after fans gave her a hard time for resenting baby Oliver’s dad.
“My sister WAS Oliver’s dad for his first five months,” Kalani writes on Instagram.
“She watched him when I had to go back to work for Asuelu’s papers,” she says.
“She bought all of the s–t I didn’t get from my baby shower,” she adds.
Kalani continues: “and let me skip rent/bills when I had to buy his plane tickets for his interviews and doctor’s appointments.”
That is one hell of a supportive sister — and a supportive aunt.
Kalani makes it clear that Asuelu deserved some of her sister’s ire.
“Asuelu wasn’t paid in coconuts, dumbasses,” Kalani says of her baby daddy’s job.
“He made $ 600 American a month,” she shares. “With no bills.”
“As a sister, if you know you’re throwing downtime and money to help your nephew,” she says.
Kalani continues: “and know that the father isn’t helping in ways that he could — YOU’D BE SALTY TOO!”
As we mentioned, things were a little more complicated for Kalani’s father.
Her dad didn’t want her to be with a Samoan man, which sounds racist until you remember that he himself is Samoan.
“You know how I feel about you being with my kind of people,” he told her on 90 Day Fiance.
“It’s just the way I was born and raised,” he said. “It’s a fast life here and it’s a slow life there.”
That sounds like internalized racism — when people absorb prejudices about themselves — and fans were upset.
Kalani says that some of her statements about her dad wanting her to be with “white men” were taken out of context.
(We absolutely had to include this — both Asuelu and baby Oliver’s first Halloween!)
90 Day Fiance is absolutely no stranger to scenes in which things were taken out of context.
We don’t think that Kalani thinks that white men offer more stability than Samoan men.
We hope that her father doesn’t really feel that way.
It is totally understandable that Kalani opted to make her Instagram private after dealing with all of that backlash following this week’s episode.
We all might wish that her family had been a little more open to Asuelu, but that doesn’t make them monsters.