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Patrick J. Adams Apologizes for Perceived Bullying Attempt

Patrick J. Adams is typically a social media superstar.

The former Suits star is usually applauded for his sweet and/or funny messages, such as what he wrote to/about Meghan Markle the day before her Royal Wedding to Prince Harry.

This is what he said:

Going to bed now and thinking a lot about the strange surreal and wonderful day my friend Meghan is going to have tomorrow.

Meghan – wherever you are – we are so grateful to be here to watch you both take this monumental step together. Love deeply and live well.

Like we said: totally sweet, right?

(Adams starred for seven seasons on Suits opposite Markle; he played her love interest, Mike Ross, and his character married her character on the latest season finale.)

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Now, however, Adams has been forced to issue an apology after an unusual incident that took place while he was in England for his good friend’s nuptials.

It’s a bit confusing, but follow along below…

Over the weekend, following the lovely ceremony and reception, Adams and his his wife, Pretty Little Liars alum Troian Bellisario, headed to the airport to catch a flight out of London.

While there, the actor shared a photo on Instagram of a sleeping woman who he says body shamed him and Bellisario, including with it the following caption:

“She reads her paper. See’s picture of me and Troian from wedding. ‘My God. What a terrible photo of you.’ I look over. ‘Really. I kind of like that photo. What do you think is wrong with it?’

“She pauses. ‘Well, you’re just so….chunky.'”

“She laughs and falls asleep. I photograph her sleeping. And….scene. #royalwedding.”

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Sort of a weird exchange, but the woman is the one who body-shamed Adams and Bellisario, right?

We suppose Adams could have taken the highest road and simply ignored the insult, or at least not made it public, but we didn’t interpret this caption as an attempt to bully the woman.

Others, however, did.

The USA Network star has therefore deleted the post and issued a lengthy Mea Culpa.

“Yesterday I posted a photo of a woman who did some casual body shaming of my wife and I in the airport,” Adams began his caption, which went along with the following image.

“My intention was solely to put a face to the people who think that sort of glancing commentary is necessary, helpful or funny. Some of the comments on the post instead said I was being a bully and should have taken the ‘high road’ (some also doubled down on the body shaming. Thumbs up guys!)

“I thought it over and agreed and took it down, not because I felt the woman was right or fair or undeserving of being called out but because any sense of being a bully or lashing out felt wrong.”

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Adams had A LOT more to say on the topic.

He was understandably upset about the way he was being labeled and felt a need to respond in detail.

So we’ll hand the floor over to the actor…

I’m no bully. What that woman said to us was offensive and unnecessary but I should have told her she was rude and out of line and left it at that. I’m sorry I didn’t.

I was too shocked and annoyed and Canadian – so I avoided the confrontation. Again, I’m sorry. Now if you see the original post on any media outlet just know that they are choosing to take a relatively small indiscretion and make it worse. Not for me.

Because I promise you once I hit post on this message it will be out of my mind forever. But it will make whatever bullying or embarrassment I might have caused for that woman far worse for a far wider audience.

Now -this has obviously taken up far too much of our time and of the precious internet space that we need so much. Sorry about that. But let’s just finish with a quick summary.

1. Don’t talk shit about the way people look. You have no idea what’s going on with them and your commentary will always make their day worse not better.

2. If someone does. Don’t use the internet to settle scores. Tell them right to their face and in public that they’re part of the problem and not the solution.

3. Believe pretty much nothing you read in magazines. Good or bad. The machinery runs on misfortune and oversimplification.

4. Be cool to yourself and others at every opportunity. Life is too short for all of this. Thx for reading. Now back to our lives…

Pretty much the perfect reply, right?

Aside from not understanding this woman’s “chunky” comment (just look at the lovely couple above), we don’t really understand why Adams received grief for his post on the matter.

But he likely made the right choice here to just end the debate and be the bigger man.

Kudos to you, Patrick.

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Derick Dillard: The View is BULLYING Me For Being Christian!

Recently, Derick Dillard went on a homophobic rant about one of TLC's home improvement shows that features a gay couple and their family.

His controversial remarks were discussed so much that they were addressed on The View, which you can see in the video below.

Now, Derick is responding … and accusing the talk show hosts of bullying him.

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Derick Dillard is known for his trolling tweets and sometimes comes across as desperate for attention now that he and Jill are no longer on Counting On.

This time, instead of bashing trans reality star Jazz Jennings, he is taking aim at Nate & Jeremiah By Design, a home improvement show on TLC.

"What a travesty of family. It’s sad how blatant the liberal agenda is, such that it both highlights and celebrates a lifestyle so degrading to children on public television as if it should be normal."

Hard to see how a child being in a loving home is degrading.

"They affect this poor child, as well as what perversions are celebrated. If it were adultery, I doubt a network would be so quick to focus on the reality of it as if it were ok."

Equating same-sex marriage to adultery is, of course, quite a reach.

But he says that he's not being hateful.

"I’m not bashing the people, I’m just calling out the public agenda at play and how a network chooses what they highlight. Christians should love all as Christ loved all. Take advantage of capitalism: boycott what you don’t believe in, but don’t boycott relationships."

So he's not being hateful … but he doesn't think that these people should be on television because they're gay parents.

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Whoopi speaks up first, saying:

"You don't have to agree with anybody's lifestyle. But you don't live in their house. Just like we don't live in a house where there are 900 kids."

Basically, she's saying that Derick doesn't have much room to talk about unusual lifestyles, giving the family into which he married.

Sara Haines chimes in, saying:

"Some of my idols as parents are gay." She provides an example of a gay couple and their child (and adorable bulldog).

Sunny Hostin then says that she thinks that stances like Derick's come from "people that lack empathy."

She also says that "people that haven't been around gay couples."

One by one, each of the hosts on The View talks about same-sex parents, from personal anecdotes and from statistics, being healthy and loving.

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Derick responded to this, decrying the segment as bullying:

"Really?! Are my friends on The View really going to be our standard & champion for open-mindedness?"

One, they're not your friends, dude. Two, they're not the standard, but they are meeting the minimum requirements for human decency.

"Conviction doesn’t equal lack of open mindedness."

That is technically true.

"We need to love all people & promote what’s best for everyone."

See, Derick isn't a kill-all-gay-people sort of bigot, he's a all-gay-people-should-just-not-be-gay bigot. He believes that his views are compassionate.

"Most Americans believe this, but are fearful of bullying like this."

If he's saying that most Americans oppose marriage equality, that is false. Just under two-thirds of Americans support same-sex marriage.

And then, of course, there's his accusation that what these hosts have to say is bullying.

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First of all, they don't really seem to talk about Derick enough for this to qualify as bullying.

As you'll see in the clip below, they mostly talk about same-sex couples who are parents whom they know and love.

Meghan McCain shares that her mother came around on marriage equality when she realized that so many children could be adopted into loving homes.

They also talk about how, for both adults and for children, knowing families with same-sex parents makes it clear that the sort of gay bogeyman that anti-gay activists describe doesn't at all match up with the real thing.

Derick does say that he has been exposed to people who aren't like him, tweeting:

"I have friends who are homosexual and was in public school for 17 years, including university band, fraternity life, and spirit squad. I think I’ve more than opened my mind and eyes to experience all kinds of people very different than myself."

That's … sad.

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But we have to remember that Derick Dillard comes from the far-right fringes of American Christianity.

We don't doubt that, among the people with whom he associates, the majority do oppose marriage equality and same-sex parents adopting and a host of other things.

There is a narrative among extreme conservatives that Christianity is being oppressed in the United States, even though Christians are of course the majority.

The narrative has been very popular recently among conservative politicians, who believe that Trump and politicians like him are "hitting back" at their oppressors.

It is also a popular narrative with Derick and those who support his less-than-kind tweets.

Watch this video for yourself and decide if this is bullying … or some heartfelt discussion of a topic near and dear to the hearts of the hosts.

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Alec Baldwin Admits to “Bullying” Women, Engaging In “Sexist” Behavior

Over the past several weeks, a number of Hollywood’s most powerful men have been exposed as serial sexual predators.

The string of scandals began with accusations against Harvey Weinstein that would eventually bring an end to one of the industry’s most esteemed film studios.

In the month that followed, allegations against Kevin Spacey, Jeremy Piven, Brett Ratner, Ben Affleck and many more pulled back the curtain on a culture of abuse and misogyny in the movie industry.

Most of the accused have feigned shock or issued timid confessions in the wake of being called out for their behavior.

Now, actor Alec Baldwin–himself no stranger to allegations of abusive behavior–is attempting to change how Hollywood addresses its ongoing misogyny issues by admitting to mistreating women before he becomes the subject of another scandal.

“I certainly have treated women in a very sexist way. I’ve bullied women. I’ve overlooked women. I’ve underestimated women,” Baldwin told Tonight Show announcer Steve Higgins at a Paley Center event on Thursday night.

“Not as a rule, [but] from time to time, I’ve done what a lot of men do, which is … when you don’t treat women the same way you treat men.”

Baldwin added:

“I’m from a generation where you really don’t, and I’d like that to change. I really would like that to change.”

Though he’s taken some flak for attributing his behavior to his age, Baldwin has mostly been applauded for his comments.

“I think it’s important for us to try to make the workplace and beyond not only comfortable and right and fair and appropriate, but as productive as well,” he explained.

“A lot of what we’re dealing with within this issue is hurting our business. It’s making it less productive.”

A father of four, Baldwin was widely castigated for an abusive voicemail he left for daughter Ireland in 2007 when she was just 11 years old.

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“I knew of certain things, that there were rumors of things happening to people, but I didn’t necessarily know the scope, when you hear the hundreds and hundreds of women who are complaining about this… It’s been a very eye-opening experience for me personally,” Baldwin said last night.

“We’ve got to be vigilant in a new way to make sure that everybody is comfortable and that we get the job done together that we’re there to do.”

Baldwin did not go into detail about the more shameful behavior of his past, but says that going forward, he will be more conscientious in his interactions with female colleagues.

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Selena Gomez: Justin Bieber Fans Are Bullying My Assistant!

It’s been over a year since the last time Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber broke up.

We’ve lost count of just how many times Justin and Selena split over the years, and frankly, we imagine they have, as well.

These days, Selena is dating The Weeknd, and it looks as though Jelena is well and truly a thing of the past.

But don’t tell that to the millions of Justin fans who are still holding out hope for a reconciliation.

Yes, like the Robsten obsessives who refused to accept that Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart had broken up, there are thousands of social media users who maintain that Justin and Selena will find their way back to one another someday.

And for some reason, they’ve decided to target their frustrations at Selena’s personal assistant, Teresa Mingus.

Teresa posted a photo of Selena and The Weeknd (real name Abel Tesfaye) with a caption that drove Beliebers up a wall.

“In an industry that’s so hard to be loyal and love, these two made it happen,” Mingus wrote on the photo below:

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We waded into the swamp of foolishness that is the comments section on the photo to share with you the most ridiculous pleas from the Jelena faithful:

“JELENAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!”

“True Love always finds its way.”

“Love over promo. REAL love always wins.”

And of course, this gem which appears to have been posted by about a dozen different users:

“Never Say Never @SelenaGomez @JustinBieber”

There were many variations on the theme that Selena and Abel’s relationship is some kind of promotional stunt (as though either party needs the added press, or would stand to benefit from a fake relationship).

Most of these read along the lines of “Abelena is PR” or “Abelena is promo.”

You get the point. It’s basically the Jelena fan equivalent of calling everything you don’t like “fake news.”

And it’s equally dumb.

Look, folks, we live in the world of celebrity gossip.

We eat, sleep, and breathe this stuff, so we’re the last people to dismiss your emotional attachment to your favorite celebrity couples.

But to paraphrase Selena’s BFF, Bieber and Gomez are never, ever, ever getting back together – and that’s a good thing.

By all appearances and based on the accounts of those who knew them best, this was not healthy for either party.

Both Selena and Justin seem happier and more stable these days, so maybe just let that relationship rest in peace?

No? Gonna continue to obsess over a on-again, off-again romance that started when they were both in their teens?

You go ahead with that.

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Aleksandra Iarovikova: 90 Day Fiance Star Quits Social Media Over Bullying

Aleksandra Iarovikova of 90 Day Fiance fame has peaced out of social media, citing the relentless bullying and harassment she’s received.

The final straw was a photo she posted of her infant daughter online and fans hatching the theory that her husband Josh is not the father.

I just wanted to say sorry to all those people who support and understand me,” Aleksandra, who hails from Russia, captioned her final post.

A photo of herself and Josh, a Mormon missionary from Idaho, on Instagram is apparently her last; Aleksandra has disabled all comments.

“Without you I’m nothing and I love you all,” she added.

Aleksandra then explained her decision as such:

“And I want to say to all the haters and those who tried to humiliate me under every post, God bless you and your families.”

“I don’t know what makes you so unhappy that you put all your negative to other people, but I know that getting your own life will make you feel better.”

“Just what makes you think that you know me and my life? Did you live in my apartment? Was you there when I was dating & getting married to Josh?”

She continued calling out her critics, incredulous at the idea that people online could say these things (which clearly hurt her deeply):

“Was you there when we did the first ultrasound?”

“Was you there when we were suffering during my labor? Did you cry with us when our girl was fighting for life in the NICU?”

“Was you there when we finally got to hold her for the first time? No? Then how dare you say something about me or Josh or our daughter?”

“I’m so done with reading the same negative comments over and over again. I’m so done with all this negative. Hope one day you’ll understand.”

“But for now, I’m so done with you and this account.”

“Thanks for everything. Bye.”

On Facebook, she changed her profile picture to one of herself and Josh, removing one in which you could see her daughter’s face.

Many speculated that the child is biracial, based at least in part on the fact that her best friend and travel companion is a black man.

She has posted lots of photos of the two together through the years, though Aleksandra has adamantly denied that Josh is not the father.

“Of course Josh is the father,” she said.

“I’d do a DNA test, but I don’t want to prove something to somebody who I don’t know. That’s sad that people don’t think and make up such silly things.”

As far as the little girl looking nothing like Josh, Aleksandra said “kids may look like their grandparents and nothing like their own parents.”

“I don’t look like my mom or dad, I look more like my grandma. My daughter looks like my mom. Seriously, they have the same face.

“They look absolutely the same, it’s crazy.”

Regarding the online chatter that her close friend might be the father of her child, the 90 Day Fiance star shot that down as well.

“He is like my brother,” she said.

“That’s even disgusting to think about possible feelings between us. He promised him to protect me in Prague while Josh is far away.”

If her relationship with Josh is suffering, you wouldn’t know it based on photos online. The couple appears to still be married and happy.

We are “still together” and “still love each other,” she said this spring, and by all accounts, Iarovikova’s Instagram pics tell a similar story.

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Lindsay Lohan: Come On! Stop Bullying Donald Trump!

Lindsay Lohan and Donald Trump have a lot in common.

Both have appeared in movies. Both are considered mentally unstable by a wide swath of well-informed individuals.

And both have been on their knees in front of powerful Russian men over the past year or so.

Lohan, of course, was engaged to Egor Tarabasov for a number of months before that relationship ended on a very sour note… while Trump and Vladimir Putin are friends with many mysterious and frightening benefits.

So it makes sense overall that Lohan would be a pretty big fan of the Commander-in-Chief.

She’ll need someone to executive produce her Russian Netflix series, after all, and Trump may very well soon be in search of a new job.

The troubled actress therefore came to the defense of Trump after someone Tweeted an image of a Breitbart article in which the President said he would be “delighted” to assist Charlie Gard, a critically-ill British baby that the European Court of Human Rights determined was too sick to help with experimental medicine.

Critics acknowledged this was a nice gesture by Trump, but also a rather hollow one.

It’s difficult not to see some irony in Trump’s Gard Tweet when juxtaposed with a health care plan he supports that would take insurance away from 22 million people.

“THIS IS our president,” Lohan Tweeted on Monday in response to the negative attention Trump often received.

She added: “Stop #bullying him & start trusting him. Thank you personally for supporting #THEUSA.”

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As you can see abive, Lohan went on to praise the First Family – including First Lady Melania Trump, daughter Ivanka Trump and son Donald Trump Jr. – as “kind people.”

She also asked a profound question as part of her timeline:

“As an American, why speak poorly of anyone?”

That’s a good and fair question. Perhaps she ought to direct it to Donald Trump.

This isn’t the first time ex-Mean Girls star has stood up for the President, either.

During a Facebook Live Q&A session for the Daily Mail in February, she urged Americans to “join” the man who wants to beat and bludgeon reporters.

“I think always in the public eye you’re going to get scrutinized,” she said at the time, adding:

“He is the president – we have to join him. If you can’t beat him, join him.”

Kevin Durant may appreciate and agree with that sentiment, but many lawmakers out there likely read Lohan’s words with a puzzled look on their faces, asking:

Okay, sure. That’s great. But what if we can beat back his wildly legislation? Do we still need to join him?

Back in 2004, Trump spoke to Howard Stern about Lohan.

He agreed with the shock jock’s assessment back then that Lindsay was “hot,” delving deeply into the reason why.

“There’s something there right?” said Trump to Stern. “But you have to like freckles. I’ve seen a, you know, close up of her chest and a lot of freckles.

“Are you into freckles?

This at least explains why Lohan likes Trump so much.

This and what we hinted at strongly at the outset of this post:

Both stars have sucked a great deal of Russian penis.

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Khloe Kardashian: Accused by Designer of Stealing Designs, Legal Bullying

Khloe Kardashian’s legal team sent a cease and desist letter to a small, independent designer, instructing her to stop accusing Khloe of stealing her work.

It looks like that’s blown up in Khloe’s face. Majorly.

If there’s one thing that truly unites the Kardashian family, it’s a fondness for cultural appropriation.

From cornrows to huge lips to big butt culture to … everything, it seems that the Kardashians scarcely have to see an element of black culture before they decide to make it their own.

But it seems that the appropriation isn’t limited to Kylie Jenner’s ever-changing body

Designer Destiney Bleu, after repeatedly calling out Khloe and accusing her of ripping off her designs.

She did this so much that Khloe’s legal team sent a nasty cease-and-desist order.

Of course, most small-time designers would be quaking in their boots when threatened with a rich person’s lawsuit.

Even if you’re in the right, just letting a lawsuit drag out in court can completely exhaust someone’s finances. You can win the case but have your life ruined.

Destiney has majorly clapped back, and no matter which of them you believe about the propietary issues, these words are absolutely worth reading.

We wonder if Khloe is regretting any of that now?

Though the response letter comes from Destiney’s legal representative, it seems pretty clear that Destiney’s words are involved.

Because the letter is decidedly not limited to legal jargon.

“It is not illegal for Khloe to copy Destiney’s designs — it is just tacky, disrespectful, and in bad taste,” says Destiney’s scathing response letter, as reported by TooFab.

“There is also something deeply uncomfortable about someone with Khloe’s wealth and power appropriating designs and fashion directly from a black woman with a small business without crediting her, making cheap knockoffs, and then attempting to threaten her into silence.”

Hold on a moment, we need to print out that line and frame it and hang it on our wall.

But the letter continues.

“You should be ashamed.”

It’s clear that we’re all meant to know exactly what Khloe’s lawyers are demanding from Destiney.

“You demand that Destiney ‘cease and desist’ her ‘false statements,’ ‘make an appropriate corrective statement,’ and ‘that [Destiney’s] trolls stop attacking [Khloe Kardashian’s] social media channels.'”

How exactly is Destiney expected to stop other people from independently tweeting at Khloe?

With magic? Sorry, Khloe’s legal team, but even if you happen to think that all black people look alike, Destiney isn’t Azealia Banks.

“However, your attempt to censor Destiney with these meritless threats will have the opposite of its intended effect. Destiney will not surrender to your bullying.”

That lawyer’s absolutely right about the opposite effect business, because if Khloe had never tried to shut down Destiney’s statements, a lot of people might never have heard about this.

And, by the way, Destiney’s also happy to provide evidence of correspondences she had, which she says prove that Khloe had access to Destiney’s samples … before going on to copy them.

How sad must it be to be rich and famous but still feel the need to pluck ideas from others and claim them as your own?

We don’t know how this legal drama will unfold, but we’re sure glad that Destiney’s words are being heard.

Maybe it’ll be a boost to her business.

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