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Selena Gomez: Her Mom’s Upset About More than Justin Bieber

Selena’s mom, Mandy Teefey, doesn’t love that she’s back with her ex. To the point where Mandy had a breakdown and went to the hospital because she couldn’t deal with it.

However, we’re hearing a claim that there’s more to Selena’s tensions with her mom than the Biebs.

And apparently, it’s a beef that goes back for years.

Selena’s mom, Mandy Teefey, was distressed — to the point where she required hospitalization — when she learned that Selena and Justin are in couples therapy.

This isn’t one of those Scientology things where Mandy’s just super anti-therapy or whatever.

No, what had Mandy so bent out of shape was the haunting, ugly realization that Selena’s little reunion with Justin wasn’t just a temporary thing.

Selena seems to be serious about resuming her relationship with the Biebs.

And quite frankly, that’s every mother’s nightmare.

No, this isn’t just about the fact that Justin Bieber isn’t hot anymore.

This is a bit more serious.

The reason that Selena Gomez’s whole family hates Justin is because they had front-row seats to the damage that her relationship with him did to mental health and her emotional well-being.

Now they’re watching her fight Lupus and are worried that she’ll soon be fighting on two fronts as Justin’s personal issues and bad behavior once again take their toll on the talented singer.

Besides, he wasted years of her youth before she got Lupus. Even if his behavior is totally different now, that’s not something that a mother could forgive easily.

If at all.

However, E! reports that there’s more putting a strain on Selena’s relationship with her mom than just her choice in penises.

“Selena has always said that the one person that means the most to her is her mom, Mandy.”

However, this source says that not everything’s perfect in their dynamic.

“But still, they’ve had a really complicated relationship and have gone through a lot of ups and downs.”

Everybody has their ups and downs — even if you have a great relationship with your mom.

But apparently, for Selena, the low points could be really, really low.

There was apparently an “entire year” during which Selena and Mandy didn’t speak, after Selena dropped Mandy as her manager back in 2014.

“It caused a huge rift in their relationship. Mandy wouldn’t even let Selena talk to her sister for a long time.”

That sounds awful.

“Mandy and Selena’s stepdad really did everything they could for Selena.”

That stepdad being Brian Teefey. Though, to be fair, that’s your obligation as parents. You don’t get a prize for that.

“So when she fired her it took a toll on Mandy emotionally and professionally.”

“Mandy lost her clout as a manager after Selena left. It caused a major rift in their relationship but they eventually reconnected.”

Honestly? We’re totally Team Mandy when it comes to the resurrection of Jelena.

(We do think that she’s going about it the wrong way. Just say a few words, then outwardly accept it, suffer in silence, and then offer her a shoulder to cry on when she realizes her mistake)

But, based on this, it sounds like Selena was in the right back in 2014. She was, what, 22?

That’s old enough to have a manager that’s not your mom. It sounds like Mandy may have just taken that the wrong way.

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Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez: In Couples Therapy… But Why?!?

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez ought to be applauded for seeking professional help.

The stars have been riding a roller coaster of love for half a decade now and it’s admirable that they realize this latest reconciliation must be taken seriously.

There’s no messing around anymore!

They are no longer kids! It’s now or never!

That said, however, fans may be a bit taken aback over the reason why Justin and Selena are, according to TMZ sources, in couples therapy.

It’s all due to… Hailey Baldwin?!?

Sources close to Hillsong Church tell the aforementioned celebrity gossip site that Bieber has been trying to make amends across the board.

The singer has acted like a pretty huge douchebag for years now, after all.

In doing so, through, Bieber reportedly reached out to Baldwin in order to apologize for their breakup, which followed a pretty brief fling… and this didn’t sit too well with Gomez.

It led to a huge fight.

To Justin and Selena’s credit, at least, they didn’t just throw in the romantic towel in response to this blowout.

They decided to try Christian couples therapy, which likely explains why Bieber has been sharing so many profound messages on his Instagram account of late.

To wit:

biebs sign

It certainly appears as if Bieber and Gomez are in this relationship for the long run, much to the dismay of the latter’s mother.

As previously reported, Mandy Teefey actually suffered some kind of breakdown last week upon discussing her daughter’s future with Bieber.

For understandable reasons, most people close to Selena aren’t very big fans of Bieber, not after all he has put their loved one through.

But Selena’s mom has supposedly given her child room to decide for herself how things will play out with Bieber.

Not that this means the two have made up entirely.

In fact, Selena and her mom no longer follow each other on Instagram.

According to a new Star Magazine report, the mother/daughter relationship may not improve any time soon, either.

Not if things continue along this path between Justin and Selena.

“Justin has taken Selena for granted once before; that won’t happen again,” an insider tells the tabloid adding:

“Justin knows he has to prove himself… life is short and Justin knows that things could change for the worse at any moment.”

Indeed, it had previously been reported that Bieber was inspired to start doing Selena again after she received a kidney transplant and he realized he might lose her forever.

Star even writes that Bieber would propose right at this very minute if he thought Selena would say yes.

First, though, there are plenty of hoops the singer has to jump through.

It may take a long time for Gomez to fully trust Justin again, but she’s clearly headed in that direction.

Does this mean a ring may be placed on her finger by this time next year?!?

You never know, readers. You just never know.

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Selena Gomez: Sad at Mom’s Breakdown, Not Sad Enough to Ditch Bieber

Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber are doing so much together these days. Dates. Church. Vacations. Each other.

Selena’s mom head a breakdown and was hospitalized in reaction to Jelena rearing its ugly head.

And apparently Selena’s rekindled relationship with the Biebs is causing even more problems.

A few months ago, when Justin Bieber called Mandy Teefey and asked to be reconnected with Selena Gomez, if Mandy had known where it would lead, we imagine that she would have hung up.

(You can’t really slam down a phone to hang it up like you could in the olden days, but she’d sure have pushed that end button with a lot of vigor)

See, Justin Bieber’s mom loves Selena Gomez (because of course she does!).

But Selena’s mom is not so crazy about the singer she must remember as a poorly behaved boy with alleged substance abuse issues, anger problems, who has spent he last few years covering his once-beautiful body in some truly ugly tattoos.

Reportedly, it was only when Mandy learned that Selena and Justin were getting couples counseling to resolve the issues that had tripped them up in the past that it hit her:

Jelena 2.0 is for real.

We don’t know if she thought of it in those words (probably not), but to say that she was upset is an understatement.

So, Mandy Teefey had a breakdown and went to the hospital over it.

Note that she was there of her own free will — this was not an involuntary psych hold. We’re glad that she had the self-awareness to know that she needed some medical attention.

And yes, we know that “mom freaked out so much about daughter’s boyfriend she had a breakdown” sounds like the fakest story ever, but it comes from TMZ and they are very diligent about making sure that they can confirm whatever they report.

That her daughter was going to therapy with her ex meant that it was serious, that Selena’s revisiting past mistakes and that Mandy’s nightmare has returned.

And apparently Selena and her mom have had it out over their disagreement — both have reportedly unfollowed the other on Instagram, for the time being.

As unhappy as Mandy is, Selena isn’t exactly thrilled, either.

HollywoodLife reports that their source close to Selena says that Selena herself isn’t loving the conflict.

“Selena is heartbroken that her relationship with Justin is creating problems with her mother and the rest of her family.”

Remember, it’s not just Selena’s mom — Selena’s whole family hates Justin. They remember him as her crappy, less talented boyfriend who wasted years of her life.

“Selena feels like she is being forced to choose sides between pleasing her mother and following her heart.”

Of course.

“Selena has loved Justin for years, despite everything, good and bad. They have been through so much together and she still loves him.”

Justin’s like a bad habit that Selena just can’t shake, and she’s off the wagon.

“Selena is struggling to get her mother to understand how much Justin has grown, matured and changed, but Mandy refuses to keep an open mind about Selena’s future with Justin.”

We’d argue that Mandy doesn’t need to keep an open mind — just to keep her thoughts to herself. We’ll explain in a moment.

“Selena feels like she is being forced to choose between being in love with Justin and making her family happy.”

Her family’s more concerned about Selena’s health and future and happiness than their own right now. But, wrapped up in the idea of Justin (but not the reality), perhaps Selena can’t see that.

“Selena knows that her mom is doing her best to protect her, but it still doesn’t feel good that Selena’s relationship with Justin is creating so much anxiety for her family.”

We’re not saying that, in general, people should let their parents dictate their romantic choices.

In this case, though, Selena’s mom might have it right. At least, Justin Bieber, “changed” or not, is bad news. Just because he has a nice butt doesn’t mean that Selena needs to repeat past emotional labors to turn him into the perfect boyfriend. He’ll never be that.

That said, we think that Mandy is clearly going about this wrong.

Unless your child’s dating an absolute monster, the best thing to do (and this works if your friend is dating or even your mother) is to gently state your reservations at the beginning, and then grin and bear it until they realize their mistake.

Selena is brilliant and beautiful but right now, she’s riding an emotional high. Anybody with an ex, especially an ex they had during a formative time in their lives, can tell you that rekindling things with them brings out a rush.

If Selena’s mom winding up in the hospital isn’t enough to break up Jelena, then, for the time being, nothing will.

But in a few weeks or months or years, Mandy can give Selena a shoulder to cry on. And perhaps a very gentle “I told you so.”

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Selena Gomez, 13 Reasons Why SLAMMED, Called “Sick” by Grieving Father

As you know, 13 Reasons Why has been renewed for a second season, even though the Netflix series is incredibly controversial for its graphic portrayal of suicide.

Well, the father of a girl who took her own life immediately after watching the first season is railing against Netflix — and against Selena Gomez.

His distress is understandable, but calling Selena Gomez “sick” and “disturbed” is … well, that might be going a little too far.

Before we get into the father’s controversial comments, here’s a little very important background on why 13 Reasons Why is controversial.

There are graphic depictions of upsetting material like suicide and sexual assault.

Now, that doesn’t mean that 13 Reasons Why necessarily glorifies suicide. Some feel that it does, others feel that it shows the damage done by taking your own life and the grief that it causes.

However, there are certain things to do and to not do when you’re telling a story about suicide.

Namely, don’t highlight the method for it. Don’t provide step-by-step instructions on screen. Don’t include graphic depictions of suicide or self-harm.

If you’re thinking that you wouldn’t see such things and suddenly feel the urge to follow in a suicidal character’s footsteps, well, congratulations. I wouldn’t either. I can also eat peanuts with impunity, but some people can’t be in the room with peanuts or they’ll literally die.

But people who do experience suicidal ideation and are plagued by thoughts of suicide — because, folks, suicidal depression is an illness — are vulnerable to these images and messages.

Parents and school officials have been alarmed by what they describe as an increase in self-harming behavior and suicide attempts — and, in the saddest cases, successful suicides — which they believe are directly related to 13 Reasons Why.

Selena Gomez is an executive producers of 13 Reasons Why. She’s one of seven executive producers, which does not make her some sort of autocrat who controls the series, but she’s definitely the most famous name attached to the show.

John Herndon is a father who discovered his 15-year-old daughter hanging in her closet after apparently having binged 13 Reasons Why. Though Bella was rushed to the hospital, she died 10 days later.

And Selena Gomez’s famous name and famed compassion … well, they’re probably why John Herndon is calling her out in his statement to RadarOnline. And he’s not mincing words, either.

“I’m still completely disgusted. Selena makes me sick.”

Though we can only imagine Herndon’s level of grief, that’s a very strong statement.

“She is an extremely disturbed individual to think that this show has any kind of redeeming social value at all.”

Clearly, she signed onto this project with the best of intentions.

Despite Herndon’s anger, he shows that he understands what suicidal teens are experiencing. But not everyone does.

“Remember that there are teens out there that are in a little darker place and these could be your friends, your sisters.”

And he worries that the intended messages in 13 Reasons Why might be misintepreted.

“Selena Gomez and Netflix need to understand that not everybody’s going to understand this very well.”

He goes on to explain exactly what can happen when someone struggling with suicidal depression witnesses a show that handles the subject this poorly.

“Some people who are battling with depression, this could catch them at the wrong time, creating what is called the trigger event.”

For someone with PTSD, exposure to harmful content would be unpleasant or even awful. For someone with suicidal depression, it could be lethal.

Herndon talks about having written to Selena more than once … on her website.

“I asked that she remove her support and get Netflix to stop,” Herndon complains. “I received no response.”

Well, yeah. Selena Gomez doesn’t personally monitor her website. Honestly I forgot that she even has one. This isn’t 1996. Also, in 1996, Selena was 4.

He’s also calling out Netflix.

“They made those decisions to make themselves look like a socially responsible company yet they are making a product about people who are hurt and how they can hurt themselves.”

We’re sure that the intentions behind the series were just the opposite.

“I’ve seen too many posts by the creators who indignantly say it’s helped more people than it’s hurt.”

Sometimes people double down instead of admitting that they’re wrong. Perhaps this is one of those situations.

“How many people have to be hurt before somebody aside from me stands up and says, ‘You know, this is wrong.’”

Please remember, folks, that Selena Gomez’s involvement does not amount to creative control. And that just because you send her a message does not mean that she’s received it.

It also does not mean that she could somehow outvote her six fellow executive producers or seize the reigns of the series itself.

We have to imagine that part of the appeal for Selena was because she wanted a series that could help young people understand and deal with upsetting issues. And she may have, given her health struggles with Lupus, have been preoccupied with death itself.

We do think that the producers care about the series and the effect that it has. We don’t — can’t — know if 13 Reasons Why has actually claimed the lives of anyone, or if it only changed the time of their death or impacted the method.

All that we really know is that we’re so sorry for John Herndon’s loss. And that insulting Selena Gomez might get attention, but it’s not the way to effect positive change.

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