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Jessica Willis: My Father Toby Willis Molested Me Since I Was 3 Years Old

In 2016, The Willis Clan star Toby Willis was arrested for child-rape. It was immediately suspected that the deeply religious father of 12 homeschooled children had raped his own child.

Jessica Willis, his oldest child, is speaking out about her father, who is thankfully serving a lengthy sentence in prison for the horrors that he perpetrated upon his family.

Jessica, now 26 and married, is opening up for the first time about her father’s sexual and physical abuse.

In a heartbreaking post to her website, Jessica Willis details her father’s abuse.

“As far back as I can remember, I was sexually abused by my father.”

She’s not exaggerating, either.

“I figure I was around three years old in some of the earliest memories.”

Horrifying.

“Initially, I had no way to know that anything was wrong. When I did eventually come to realize the fact, I had no way to accurately express what was happening to me.”

This is not uncommon at all in abuse victims. Many survivors also find it difficult to speak because they instinctively fear retaliation.

“There followed immense shame, distrust and hurt throughout my childhood — even in the happy times. Thus ran the two parallel storylines that became my life.”

Like countless children who endure abuse, she felt that what was happening was wrong, but did not fully question it.

That changed when she was 9 and her mother asked her some questions about how her father acted, to which she responded by nodding her head.

After that, she heard her mother raise her voice to her father for the first time.

“I didn’t understand that my father simply denied any wrongdoing and became more secretive and dangerous from then on.”

Pro-tip: if you suspect that your spouse is molesting or otherwise abusing your child, go to the police, not to your spouse.

Things did not get better for Jessica from that point on.

The Willis Clan - Then

Over time, her father tightened his grip on his growing family.

“Suffice  it to say my father controlled the family in every single area of life.”

Even when they became reality stars, they were no safer than before.

“Underneath the outward foundations of family, religion and homeschooling with an emphasis in the arts, there was a constant current of manipulation, domination, fear, and favor.”

Like countless children who grow up under those circumstances, she could not conceive that her life could be different or better.

“There was very little room inside the bubble of my world to imagine that there was any alternative.”

Like countless abuse survivors, reflecting upon her childhood fills her with disgust.

“Looking back now, it’s almost impossible to face the fact of what my life once used to be.”

When you are living through trauma like this, your mind conjures up coping mechanisms that “help” you to adapt to the unspeakable.

“Many things were normal for me that  should have never been met with anything other than outrage.”

“The abuse  developed and ebbed at various intervals over the years and into puberty.”

Over time, he seemed to lose some interest in sexually abusing her.

“The most graphic sexual abuse faded off for me when I was around seventeen years old but many inappropriate actions and attentions continued.”

She came to the grim realization that she was not his only victim.

“I feel like I truly knew that certain other members of my family were being sexually abused and I felt they knew this about me too. Conversations were had, tears were cried and we questioned how to ‘deal’  with the ‘situation.'”

The Willis Clan - Now

She was almost 23 before something happened that caused the coping mechanisms that she had developed begin to break down.

“I came into my hotel room that night to find  my mother and some of my sisters sitting on the bed crying with that look on their face I had seen so many times before.”

Sometimes, it takes one event to shatter the denial.

“The coldest, blackest pit opened up in my stomach because no words needed to be said for me to know something had happened.”

Some survivors are haunted by needless guilt and the feeling that they failed to protect their younger siblings from suffering as they suffered. It is never their fault.

“How was I here again? I could not stay in denial about my past because it obviously wasn’t staying in the past even though at times I had tried so hard to forgive and forget.”

Part of what makes PTSD so difficult is the P — for post. Everything that you’ve been denying just to survive comes back to you. Even if you aren’t yet safe.

“Things were not over. They had never been over. Sexual abuse was still happening.”

Eventually, she wrote 14 pages of details of what her father had done to her. She showed it to her mother, who was outraged.

“I had taken my first step towards speaking out, but I had shared my story with another victim trapped in the same prison as me.”

Sadly, many children who are abused find that the only people who know are also victims.

“My father lashed  out at both of us with whatever threats necessary to maintain his control and began consistently threatening my mom with the lives of the entire family.”

Her father fits the profile of a potential family-annihilator very specifically. When they fear losing control, they can turn turn a house of horrors into a house of hostages.

“My father sought to stamp out my rebellion and became increasingly violent towards me even in front of the family.”

It was this abuse, from assaulting her in front of the family on a tour bus to beating her with a belt, that made her realize that his threats of violence if she tried to leave were no longer effective.

Just before her 24th birthday, she finally made her escape.

“Around  4 months after I left, another friend stepped forward to save the rest  of my family. He reported my father for suspicion of sexual abuse and  the official investigation started. The case was given to the Tennessee Bureau of Investigation.”

And yes, she helped.

“When they contacted me, I went in and ended up speaking with them the whole rest of that day.”

She had an entire lifetime’s worth of unspeakable trauma to share. And that was just about what had happened to her.

“I was able to give them a long and confident testimony which was eventually used to create the arrest warrant.”

Her father was, of course, arrested.

Given the limits of the US legal system, he was sentenced to 40 years, and he will be required to serve all of that time.

Jessica is now married to the man who first helped her to come to terms with what had happened to her.

She ends her post with a message of affirmation and hope.

“If you too are a survivor, you are not alone.”

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Jessica Simpson Shows Off Lips, Gets Destroyed on Instagram

Jessica Simpson thought she was sharing a harmless selfie.

She thought she was encouraging fans to work out

She thought she was giving them a look at her workout.

"#ShowMeYourSteps," the former singer wrote as a caption to the first photo listed below, adding: "#Niners #GucciGlasses #JSTheWarmUp."

But the Internet can be a cruel place.

And, as you can see below, social media followers aren't focused on Simpson's calorie burning, but rather on a certain body part that stands out in this initial photo…

1. Hello, Lips!

Jessica simpson lips selfie
Jessica Simpson is receiving a lot of flak for this selfie. Followers are aghast over her very plump lips.

2. Quack! Quack!

Duck face
The general consensus from critics is that Simpson’s lips make Kylie Jenner’s lips look thin and natural.

3. Let’s Be Frank

Ridic
There was no beating around the bush here. Various critics came right out with how they feel.

4. This is a New Hashtag

Awful things
#AwfulThings, huh? Again, no beating around the bush here.

5. What… is… Happening?

Mouth question
We all know the answer, don’t we? It rhymes with schastic murgery.

6. Reject the Injections!

Down with injections
Fans are pleading with Jessica. Do you agree that she looked better before?

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‘Amazing Race’ Stars Cody and Jessica Engaged After Runyon Canyon Proposal

‘Amazing Race’ couple Cody Nickson and Jessica Graf have been through a lot together — in the public eye — and now they can add getting engaged to the list. We got this video of Cody proposing to Jessica at the top of Runyon Canyon Park’s hiking…

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Kim Cattrall vs Sarah Jessica Parker: Andy Cohen Says It’s Not a Catfight

What began as a missing person's case has ended in tragedy. Kim Cattrall's brother has died at 55

When Kim's former costar, Sarah Jessica Parker, reached out with her condolences, Kim Cattrall shot her down. 

As you can hear below, no one is more flabbergasted at this than Andy Cohen, who has waded into this feud to defend Sarah Jessica Parker.

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After Sex and the City actress Kim Cattrall's missing brother's body was discovered, she shared the crushing news on Instagram.

Among the flurry of sympathetic responses was a comment from Sarah Jessica Parker.

"Dearest Kim, my love and condolensces to you and yours and Godspeed to your beloved brother. xx"

Kim's reply was … intense.

"I don’t need your love or support at this tragic time @sarahjessicaparker."

The message, a full post on Instagram, continued, and Kim Cattrall made herself every clear.

"Let me make this VERY clear. (If I haven’t already) You are not my family. You are not my friend."

That's … extremely harsh.

"So I’m writing to tell you one last time to stop exploiting our tragedy in order to restore your ‘nice girl’ persona."

While Kim Cattrall is certainly grieving, the level of enmity here is palpable. And it's also nothing new.

This is where Andy Cohen comes in, speaking on his SiriusXM channel, Radio Andy.

"I thought it was fake. I was like, ‘There’s no way Kim Cattrall has posted this on her Instagram.’ This is a women who is in the middle of grieving the loss of her brother, which is tragic and sad."

It is a crushing loss. But Kim really did post that on Instagram.

"She accused SJP of exploiting a tragedy … She follows Kim on Instagram, Kim posted about her brother dying, and she expressed her condolences on the post … She posted it in a comment!"

Posting it in a comment, which is quickly buried under other comments and doesn't draw people to your own page, is generally seen as more respectful if you're walking on eggshells and don't want to be accused of exploiting a situation.

Andy Cohen goes on and continues to express his bewilderment.

"I would not call that ‘exploiting a tragedy.’ What was she supposed to do? Say something bad? I mean, I don’t understand."

Most people are lucky enough to not understand what Kim Cattrall is going through, but that doesn't necessarily excuse an entire post dedicated to blasting a former friend over condolences.

"I also don’t like it that people are characterizing this as a catfight."

The way that Andy sees things, it takes two to tango, this thing — whatever it is — seems to be very one-sided.

"There’s only one person fighting here … I even kind of, admittedly, didn’t try to stir it up on Watch What Happens Live when Sarah was on, but I was like, ‘What do you think?’ Sarah only said the nicest things about her … It’s a catfight of one from where I see it."

Admittedly, we're inclined to feel the same way as Andy does — rudeness and hostility on this level is shocking.

At the same time, if someone's made it clear that they don't want you in any way to be part of your life, it's good to respect that, even if you find it hurtful or unfair.

Even so — one wonders what sorts of things people would say about Sarah Jessica Parker if it became known that she had said nothing about Kim's loss. It's a no-win situation.

Listen to the rest of Andy's comments and decide for yourself if you agree with his characterizations.

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Kim Cattrall Sends VERY Clear Message to Sarah Jessica Parker

Kim Cattrall was known on Sex and the City for portraying a character who always spoke her mind.

And it’s now evident that that the role of Samantha Jones was a bit of type-casting, considering the simple and direct share Cattrall just hurled in the direction of a former co-star.

In a very straightforward Instagram message shared on Saturday morning, for ex-HBO star addressed Sarah Jessica Parker, the former lead on the series that made both women very rich and very famous.

“My Mom asked me today “When will that @sarahjessicaparker, that hypocrite, leave you alone?” opened Cattrall on social media.

She then set her sights specifically on Parker and wrote:

“Your continuous reaching out is a painful reminder of how cruel you really were then and now. Let me make this VERY clear. (If I haven’t already):

You are not my family. You are not my friend.

“So I’m writing to tell you one last time to stop exploiting our tragedy in order to restore your ‘nice girl’ persona.”

The bold up above is our own because thought these words required emphasis.

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There had long been rumored tension between Cattrall and Parker, dating back to when the actress co-starred on Sex and the City the TV show.

They put aside their differences for many seasons, however, and then also through a pair of movies.

But everything blew up publicly last fall after Parker told Extra that a script had been penned for Sex and the City 3 and that everyone was on board to film…

… except for Cattrall.

She referred to this hold out as “disappointing.”

Cattrall then took exception to Parker taking her beef public, considering Kim says she was never, ever open to shooting another movie.

She held no bitter feeling. She even encouraged producers to find another actress for Samantha.

She had simply moved on — and here was Parker, taking her to task for simply making a personal and professional decision.

“At this very moment it’s quite extraordinary to get any kind of negative press about something that I’ve been saying for almost a year of ‘no’ that I’m demanding or a diva,” Cattrall told Piers Morgan in an interview last October, adding of Parker in particular:

“And this is really where I take to task the people from Sex and the City and specifically Sarah Jessica Parker, in that I think she could have been nicer.”

So it was obvious at that time that the stars weren’t very close.

But then Cattrall’s brother went missing and was eventually found dead.

In response to the tragedy, Parker wrote the following on Instagram:

Dearest Kim, my love and condolences to you and yours and Godspeed to your beloved brother. Xx.

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This appears to be the basis for Cattrall’s latest message.

She feels as though Parker wasn’t being sincere, pretending as if she and Cattrall were good friends when, in reality, they are anything but.

Wrote Cattrall shortly after she learned of her brother’s death:

“It is with great sadness that myself and my family announce the unexpected passing of our son and brother, Chris Cattrall.

“At this time we ask for privacy but we want to thank you all on social media for your outpouring of love and support in this trying time.”

Did Parker mean well with her Instagram reply to this confirmation?

Or was she exploiting the sad situation for PR sake, to make it look like she’s a caring individual when, according to Cattrall, there’s no relationship of any kind about which Parker should care.

It’s clear on which side of this debate Cattrall falls.

And it’s also now VERY clear that there will no Sex and the City 3, not with Cattrall as Jones at least.

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