Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith have been dogged by multiple rumors during their long, long marriage.
Now, in an emotional post about crumbling marriages shared beside a photo of her own family, Jada is reflecting upon the pain that marraiges can bring.
And she talkes about how a once-healthy marriage can change.
In a very thoughtful Instagram post, Jada Pinkett Smith addresses her fans and followers.
“I’ve been watching a lot marriages dissolve around me,” she reflects.
That happens — especially when you get to a certain age. It’s the less cute version of when you’re thirty and it seems like at least 20% of your friends have kids.
Jada’s post continues: “It’s been really painful.”
“Marriages change,” Jada acknowledges.
“Sometimes,” Jada says of marriages. “They need to be reimagined and transformed.”
But Jada does admit that: “Sometimes they are simply over …”
That is certainly true. If a relationship cannot adapt to changes, then it falls apart.
“But either way,” Jada writes. “I pray that folks going thru this painful transition find the patience and the love within to not throw the ‘babies’ out with the bath water.”
She concluded with a very simple hashtag: “#family.”
Jada also opened up on Instagram about forgiveness, sharing a Pillowtalk video in which she reflects upon the topic.
“Forgiveness …” Jada begins. “My power to forgive others came from forgiving myself by looking into the shadows of my own heart.”
She takes a spiritual tone, saying that sometimes people need divine help just to heal from the trauma that they have endured.
“But…” Jada writes. “There are acts committed against us that are so horrific our only choice is to give it to the Mother/Father to fill us with a healing needed to find the ‘God Love’ within that gives us the ‘Self Love’ we need.”
Whether or not you would use the same sort of diction choices that she makes, we all know that people can have serious self-love problems after being grievously wronged by others.
Jada doesn’t speak about specific wrongs, but instead coaches her fans and followers on the concept of letting go.
Jada absolute acknowledges that “to forgive” is a “delicate process.”
For some, impossible. Some religious traditions all but mandate forgiveness, but there are others that emphatically do not.
But Jada wisely points out that forgiveness does not mean accepting a person back into your life.
“Also,” Jada says. “I had to realize that just because my heart may embrace and forgive … doesn’t mean that person should be standing beside me.”
Jada and Will have faced divorce rumors for years. Honestly? It’s probably because they’re a Hollywood couple who have been together for a long time.
A lot of people see the divorce rate (and, let’s be real, probably their own relationship troubles) and expect a couple who are so visible and whose lives and careers are so full of potential temptations. They expect a divorce.
But it seems like, just as Jada and Will mastered parenting to raise their amazing children, they also really have a hang on marriage.
It’s great that Jada is imparting wisdom upon her fans and followers.