Chip Gaines and Joanna Gaines are pretty much the definition of relationship goals, right? Which is why Chip’s Valentine’s Day message has left some fans scratching their heads.
Usually, Valentine’s Day is all about romanticizing love and relationships as much as possible.
Instead, Chip seems to be focusing on the imperfections. Is he on to something here?
Considering the way that Chip and Joanna Gaines have shot down marital trouble rumors in the past, you’d think that they either have a picture-perfect marriage …
… Or that they, at least, want everyone to believe that everything is all smiles and rainbows or whatever.
A lot of fans grew suspicious when they heard that Fixer Upper was ending after 5 seasons. It’s a hugely popular series, and most networks and stars keep a show going until it stops being profitable.
To borrow the words of Bo Burnham, most television shows don’t stop beating the proverbial dead horse until it stops spitting out money.
But you know what? A couple of married stars quitting a show doesn’t have to be a marital spat. Maybe they made “enough” money — if there is such a thing. (To be clear, they are each worth like $ 8 million)
Their actual stated reason was just that they wanted to spend more time with each other and their family. That sounds healthy enough to us.
Chip tweeted out his unorthodox Valentine’s Day message, early Wednesday morning.
“No such thing as a ‘perfect marriage.'”
But Chip reveals what he believes to be the secret of making a marriage work.
“For me, its always been simple: commitment.”
Well that makes a lot of sense. That doesn’t just mean not cheating, but being committed to their emotional and romantic bond and their relationship and family and life together.
“Every morning I wake up committed, and pray that she chooses the same. And so today, again, I choose my beautiful bride.”
He clearly takes his marriage voews seriously.
“To have and to hold.. till death do us part. #HappyValentinesDay sweet girl!”
Of course, Chip and Joanna are expecting their fifth child.
The Gaineses are already parents to Drake, age 12, Ella, age 11, Duke, age 9, and Emmie Kay, age 7.
Preparing for a fifth child is a lot, but the couple can certainly balance that while continuing to grow their home improvement empire.
They’ve even made time for adorable little gags, like the way that they showed off their baby bump.
It’s always a sign of a healthy couple when they can joke and have fun while celebrating good news.
So, in light of their relationship, we think that Chip and Joanna are being realistic about the struggles of being a couple who’s been married for a long time.
You’re going to disagree. You’re going to get on each other’s nerves. You’re going to catch yourself imagining a different life.
All of that will happen whether or not you argue. It’s part of being a person.
What matters, and this is really what Chip’s tweet is getting at, is how committed you are to your bond with your partner. Or partners, for that matter.
What’s more, the fact that Chip is openly discussing the imperfections in his and all marriages is a healthy sign.
That means that he feels so secure in his relationship that he doesn’t hesitate to mention that not everything’s picture perfect.
In a Valentine’s Day message, no less.
These two seem to have things all figured out.