Just a couple of weeks ago, Dennis Shields was found dead in his Trump Tower apartment. The ex-boyfriend of Bethenny Frankel was 51 years old.
His loved ones, including Bethenny, are still coping with the tragic news. Loss is never easy.
Now, the Skinnygirl mogul has taken to Twitter to thank her fans and followers for their support — and to admit just how difficult of a time this is.
On Sunday, in a carefully condensed tweet, the The Real Housewives of New York City star shared exactly how she is feeling.
“It’s hard to breathe,” Bethenny’s tweet begins.
Processing a sudden and agonizing loss is never easy. Shields was part of her life for a couple of decades.
“And,” her tweet continues. “I appreciate you giving me the space & support to try to do so.”
That means that her fans have been, for the most part, respectful and supportive on social media during this very difficult time. Good.
But Bethenny is not mincing words when it comes to sharing how she feels.
“It’s excruciating,” she admits.
Of course it is. Death is always hard, but this situation is especially difficult, as she explains.
“Sudden death is no closure,” Bethenny writes.
“And,” she continues, she is haunted by “constant questions and memories.”
(Bethenny shared this thank you message on social media, giving a succinct shout-out to followers for supporting her emotionally during these trying times)
Her tweet continues, making clear that she and Dennis Shields were still very much in each other’s orbits.
“Our relationship is current,” Bethenny reveals.
It sounds like she means that neither of them were in the other’s past. Sometimes, on-again, off-again relationships are like that.
“So,” she explains. “It’s painfully raw.”
Despite everything, she is pushing forward and dealing with her grief.
Bethenny writes that she is “trying to stay healthy and move through it.”
That is a very healthy attitude.
She explains that she is coping “with tears and close friends. Xo”
That is absolutely the way to do it. Don’t try to bury your grief or go through this sad journey alone. Mourn together.
And surround yourself with people who can help you to process a senseless loss even if they aren’t reeling from it personally. Your friends and loved ones want to support you.
Unfortunately, even as Bethenny processes this loss emotionally, it is coming up during her court battle with her vicious ex, Jason Hoppy.
In fact, just days after Shields’ passing, Hoppy’s attorney argued that Dennis Shields’ death, which was initially reported as sounding like an overdose, proves that Bethenny is a bad mom.
That is, of course, absurd. And not just because Shields’ final words indicate that his death may have been more complicated than people first assumed — featuring a lethal mix of medications in an effort to combat his back pain.
This unfortunately adds insult to injury and almost seems like an argument designed to fail in court but upset Bethenny. Even the judge compared the claim about Bethenny’s parenting to a “grenade.”
Bethenny is strong and we know that she can get through this. We just hope that it’s as painless as possible.