At the beginning of the week, Kim and Kanye welcome their third child — a healthy baby girl.
We don’t yet know the youngest West child’s name, but we do know how she was born. Kim’s pregnancy via surrogacy was … not exactly secret.
But now Kim is opening up about everything about her pregnancy and her huge decision to have this child via surrogate.
In a post on her app, Kim Kardashian spoke about her pregnancy decision — about her surrogate, why she chose that route, and about her healthy baby daughter.
“It’s as if she was with us the whole time,” she says of her new baby. She then explains that, because of her history with pre-eclampsia and placenta accreta, this was really her only option.
“Doctors said that it wasn’t safe for my, or the baby’s, health to carry my own.”
Which, of course, is why Kim and Kanye opted for what she refers to as a “gestational carrier,” but almost everyone else refers to as a surrogate.
In case there’s any confusion about whose gametes got to mingle to make the third Kimye baby, Kim clarifies that her child is “biologically mine and Kanye’s.”
Did anyone really think otherwise? Kim’s eggs work just fine; it’s the placentas that form in her body that try to kill her.
Are you ready to hear about how hard it is having a surrogate? Because Kim’s ready to tell you.
“Having a gestational carrier is definitely different, but anyone who says or thinks it’s the easy way out is completely wrong.”
Well, sure. For one thing, it’s super duper expensive, which is likely why the mysterious surrogate hired by Kim and Kanye agreed to it in the first place, though we don’t know how rich the surrogate may now be.
Kim says that it’s not all carefree fun, though.
“People assume it’s better because you don’t have to deal with the physical changes, pain, or complications with delivery.”
Well … yeah.
“But for me it was so hard to not carry my own child, especially after I carried North and Saint.”
Ah. She’s talking about bonding. Not the baby’s bonding — her nameless third child is doing plenty of that. But Kim’s own bonding.
But, clearly, she still feels that having a surrogate is better than dying.
As for her surrogate, Kim says that she “trusted her completely throughout the entire process.”
That’s great. I think that we’ve all seen one episode of a crime show or another where a couple’s surrogacy plans didn’t turn out as they’d expected.
Normal couples have to worry that their surrogate will change her mind and keep their child. For Kim, there must have been fears of spilling secrets.
“I’m so grateful for modern technology and that this is even possible.”
Scientists have actually made an artificial womb recently, and I believe that they were able to grow a lamb in it. Some say that this is the future of surrogacy — parents could watch development in a little nook within their home. Just putting that out there.
But, to be clear, Kim isn’t trying to push this idea on everyone.
“It’s not for everyone, but I absolutely love my gestational carrier and this was the best experience I’ve ever had.”
Considering that Kim’s pregnancies were high risk, we’d imagine so.
“Having a gestational carrier was so special for us and she made our dreams of expanding our family come true.”
We’re so glad that this worked out so well for Kim.
Though Kim is quick to make it clear that she did this because she might have died otherwise, let’s make something clear:
There’s nothing wrong with surrogacy, even with zero medical necessity. It shouldn’t have any stigma attached to it.
Many like the idea of having a surrogate simply so that they don’t have to go through pain and suffering to birth a child.
And those who can afford the service may also like the idea of financially assisting the person who’s helping them have a child.
It’s a win-win scenario. The only losers are people who think that a natural birth is the only way, and those folks are losers anyway.