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Ciara Responds to Backlash After Telling Women to Get Married!

Even though it hasn’t even been two full years since Ciara and Russell Wilson got married, Ciara apparently feels like she’s in a place to give some very heavy-handed marriage advice.

After Ciara shared some “advice” that didn’t go over very well with fans, she received quite a bit of backlash. Some believed that she was shaming women for not being married.

Now, Ciara is speaking out. But we’re not sure if this is going to smooth out those ruffled feathers.

Ciara seems to be one of those people who thinks that there’s one right way to do things — and it’s whatever way she happens to do them.

And she’s also apparently one of those people who thinks that she can just stand above everyone else and give out advice.

On Instagram, Ciara shared a video of a sermon with the quote:

“Too many women want to be married, but you’re walking in the spirit of ‘girlfriend,'” a quote by the pastor who is speaking in the video, John Gray.

Ciara then added to it: “#LevelUp. Don’t settle.”

As you can imagine, this didn’t exactly go over well with a lot of fans. Nobody follows singers to get preached to.

“Ciara’s playing a dangerous game. You should never, no matter how perfect your relationship/marriage appears to be, sit on a throne and tell people why they’re not romantically successful. You can be the queen of the ball today and have cake in your face tomorrow!”

Others took issue with the pastor’s line, and the distinction that he gives between wives and girlfriends, saying:

“The difference between the two is a ring and a piece of paper…this speech is a hot piece of garbage.”

Others brought up Ciara’s past. People who formerly lived in glass houses still shouldn’t throw rocks.

“Ciara telling women to ‘Level up’ and live ‘like a wife’ so they can b married is astounding to me. Didn’t you need grace, mercy, & compassion when you were being dragged up and down the Internet for the Future situation? How quickly ppl forget when they reach a perch of privilege.”

Some, however, defended Ciara, saying that fans were hypocritical and just rejecting the advice because it wasn’t what they wanted to hear.

“Y’all wanted to know how Ciara snatched a Russell Wilson, and she told y’all but now y’all mad. LMAO.”

Others lashed out at how people had brought up Ciara’s past.

“Ciara’s GROWTH has nothing to do with her denying her past …. Y’all heffas get mad at fellow women for trying to encourage you to do BETTER because you deserve better but you’re also upset when men degrade you. Y’all Just gotta play victim because Hoe is Life.”

We think that the issue is that “girlfriend” isn’t worse than “wife,” it’s just different. A lot of her fans felt like they were being shamed.

Ciara responded with an Instagram post that … well, it’s probably not going to endear her to the people who didn’t like her previous post.

“I was [once] that girl wanting to be loved a certain way bit was making the wrong choices. I found myself at my lowest moment.”

That sounds so sad.

“I was a single mom sitting at home, and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me, how He wants me to be loved, and who He was calling me to be as a mom and a woman.”

A lot of folks are going to object to her describing single motherhood as her “lowest moment.”

“That’s when I realized married [or] not married… I needed to love myself. #LevelUp”

Self-love is a valuable thing to learn. Not everyone wants to get married now or to get married ever, but everyone wants to love themselves.

It’s not clear whether Ciara believes that Russell Wilson found her alleged godliness so attractive that he wanted to marry her, or if she believes that her current marriage is a divine reward.

Maybe both?

A lot of fans still

Surely, if Ciara doesn’t like being mom-shamed, she shouldn’t … existence-shame women?

But we should acknowledge that this is what worked for Ciara. Clearly, some fans want to know how she found her current happiness, and she’s sharing it.

Just because it clearly wouldn’t work for everyone doesn’t mean that she’s wrong to share the advice, right?

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Kailyn Lowry FINALLY Responds to Javi Marroquin-Briana DeJesus Breakup!

Earlier this week, the world learned that Javi Marroquin and Briana DeJesus had broken up after less than four months of dating.

Rumored reasons for the split vary (Briana says Javi dumped her due to her desire for more plastic surgery; he insists that wasn't the case.), but at this point the breakup has been confirmed by both parties.

The news wasn't terribly surprising as, frankly, no one expected these two to last this long.

In fact, in the hours afrer word of the separation went public, many fans were less concerned with the "he said, she said" details, and more interested in what Javi's ex-wife, Kailyn Lowry, thought about the situation.

Now, we finally have her long-awaited response…

1. Javiana

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At first, Javi and Briana’s relationship was viewed by fans as a revenge fling. But as the months went on, it began to look as though these two might be in it for the long haul.

2. Intensity in Two Cities

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From the start, Javi and Briana’s relationship faced a number of significant hurdles, not the least of which was the fact that he lives in Delaware, while she’s based out of Orlando.

3. The Kail Factor

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In the eyes of many TM2 fans, the biggest obstacle facing Bri and Javi was Marroquin’s ex-wife, Kailyn Lowry. But interestingly, Kail doesn’t seem to have stood in the couple’s way. In fact, she might be what brought them together.

4. Revenge Fantasy

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It’s widely believed that Bri began dating Javi in order to get under Kailyn’s skin. If that’s the case, it worked … at first. Kail seemed to lose interest in the situation after a few weeks and stopped publicly responding to news about the couple. Until now…

5. Kail’s Comments

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When news of Briana and Javi’s breakup went public fans were dying to know what Kailyn had to say. But there was a time when it looked like she would choose not to comment at all.

6. The Lowry Verdict

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Today, however, Kail has opened up in an interview published by Radar Online. And her followers might not like what she has to say…

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Aziz Ansari Responds to Sexual Assault Allegations

Aziz Ansari has issued a statement in response to some pretty damning allegations.

Over the weekend, a photographer went public with details of date gone horribly wrong she says took place between her and Ansari in September.

The woman, who goes by the name “Grace” in her account to Babe.net, says she me the actor at a post-Emmys party last fall.

After exchanging phone numbers, she and the Master of None star went out one night before ending up back at Ansari’s apartment.

It was then, the woman alleges, that Ansari became sexually aggressive.

She says he immediately went to get a condom, not long after the two started kissing, and that she continually placed her hand on his penis.

“He probably moved my hand to his dick five to seven times,” she told the aforementioned website. “He really kept doing it after I moved it away.”

Grace explained that Aziz briefly performed oral sex on her and vice versa, but that she also made it clear she didn’t want anything to progress further.

In her recounting of the incident, Grace emphasizes that Ansari ignored her “verbal and non verbal cues.”

After finally stopping their hook-up and collecting her emotions in the bathroom, Grace says she hoped to finish the night on a happy note.

But even after acknowledging that he didn’t want to pursue sex if Grace wasn’t also having “fun,” Ansari pressured her again into going down on him and into making out a lot more.

“It took a really long time for me to validate this as sexual assault,” she told Babe, adding:

“I was debating if this was an awkward sexual experience or sexual assault.

“And that’s why I confronted so many of my friends and listened to what they had to say, because I wanted validation that it was actually bad.”

After their encounter, Grace sent Ansari a text that detailed how he made her feel, saying in part: 

“You kept going with advances. You had to have noticed I was uncomfortable.”

The actor responded with contrition.

Grace shared both of these messages with Babe.net. First, a look at hers:

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Now, a look at what Ansari said in reply:

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The alleged victim concluded that this was the “worst experience” she ever had with a man and that it made her sick to see Ansari with a Time’s Up pin at the Golden Globes, claiming to support the #MeToo movement.

A few hours after she made these claims, Ansari responded with a statement through his publicist.

It reads as follows:

In September of last year, I met a woman at a party. We exchanged numbers.

We texted back and forth and eventually went on a date. We went out to dinner, and afterwards we ended up engaging in sexual activity, which by all indications was completely consensual.

The next day, I got a text from her saying that although ‘it may have seemed okay,’ upon further reflection, she felt uncomfortable.

It was true that everything did seem okay to me, so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned.

I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking the time to process what she had said.

I continue to support the movement that is happening in our culture. It is necessary and long overdue.

We’ll continue to update this story as more news breaks.

Do you think Ansari deserves to be included among the accused men of Hollywood for his actions in this case?

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James Franco Responds to Sexual Misconduct Accusations on Stephen Colbert’s ‘Late Show’

James Franco had some hand-wringing moments with Stephen Colbert as he tried to address accusations on social media that he sexually assaulted and harassed women. ‘The Late Show’ almost felt like “Dr. Phil” as the actor took issue with several…

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Rain Brown Responds to Gay Rumors: I’ve Accepted My Sexuality

Back in October, Alaskan Bush People star Rain Brown was praised for her pro-equality message that she shared on Instagram.

Some fans, however, wondered if her message about LGBT rights might be a little personal. And, rudely, a couple of fans boldly asked Rain if she’s gay.

Though she had every right to ignore the questions, Rain decided to come clean and answer them.

Like the rest of her family, Rain Brown has a lot on her plate. 

Since no, Ami Brown’s cancer wasn’t miraculously cured despite our hopes and best wishes, she’s still contending with her mother’s battle with lung cancer.

That’s hard for anyone to deal with, especially a girl who’s only just turned 15.

Reportedly, the Brown family is filming Season 8 in Colorado. We don’t know how much they’ve filmed — possibly just a promo or two — but filming a reality series is no joke.

Oh, and with Rain’s Instagram account having reached over 45,000 followers in just a few months, she’s dealing with a lot of social media pressures as both a teenage girl and her family’s de facto spokesperson.

It’s through social media that some people decided to give her a hard time by grilling her about her sexuality.

Folks, straight-up asking somebody their sexual orientation is fine sometimes, awkward at other times, and sexual harassment in other contexts.

When total strangers are asking a 15-year-old girl her sexual orientation, that’s seriously crossing some boundaries.

Apparently, Rain’s short hair, or perhaps the fact that she calls her fans “rainbows,” or perhaps her recent message about equality, led some fans to wonder about her sexuality, which is no one’s business by Rain’s.

We don’t know if they expected Rain to answer, but she did.

Rain shared an optimistic post, as she often does, and a fan straight-up commented:

“Are you gay?”

Though we’d have absolutely understood if Rain had ignored the comment, she decided to reply with a very direct answer:

“No, I’m straight.”

Rain didn’t stop there, though.

“And I call my fans rainbows because my name is Rain, but you do you boo.”

She added to that a kissy face emoji. Some people would add that as an insult, but coming from Rain, we think that it’s to show that there are no hard feelings over the question.

On another photo, a different fan commented:

“I wonder if [Rain] has accepted her sexuality yet?”

(Folks, if you want to speculate over somebody’s sexuality, do it in private or not at all — not on that person’s Instagram page)

Rain replied:

“I’m straight … so yeah, I have.”

That’s a polite reply but we believe that we detect an air of frustration.

To be clear, the sexuality question is inappropriate, not because gay people are somehow inherently inappropriate, but because it’s nobody’s beeswax. Also, it can constitute harassment.

She shouldn’t be faced with these questions, folks.

Not just because plenty of LGBT+ folks don’t feel comfortable coming out at 15 (if they’re even aware), but because it’s straight-up inappropriate.

We understand the desire to know as much as possible about the stars you admire.

And, quite frankly, a lot of television is starved for decent LGBT+ representation. Reality television is definitely included.

But instead of asking stars to come out — whether they’re actually gay or not — how about if we all instead mind our own business?

Especially when the reality stars in question are, you know, 15.

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Sean Astin Responds to FCC’s Fake Comments by His Mother, Patty Duke, Against Net Neutrality

Sean Astin says if his mom, Patty Duke, were still alive today … she’d be marching on Capitol Hill to demand answers why her name was fraudulently used to oppose net neutrality. A little backstory — Sean’s bro, actor Mackenzie Astin, called out…

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Nick Carter Responds to Melissa Schuman Rape Allegation

Nick Carter has spoken out about an extremely disturbing allegation.

On Tuesday night, Melissa Schuman shared an emotional blog post in which she accused the Backstreet Boys member of rape.

Unlike other recent allegations made against celebrities for sexual harassment or misconduct, Schuman made it very clear in her graphic retelling:

She says Carter flat-out raped her.

We’ll share details from her accusation below, but Carter has now responded to this charge via a statement to People Magazine.

It reads as follows:

I am shocked and saddened by Ms. Schuman’s accusations. Melissa never expressed to me while we were together or at any time since that anything we did was not consensual.

We went on to record a song and perform together, and I was always respectful and supportive of Melissa both personally and professionally.

This is the first that I am hearing about these accusations, nearly two decades later.

It is contrary to my nature and everything I hold dear to intentionally cause someone discomfort or harm.

Schuman does acknowledge the recording she and Carter made in her blog entry.

She says they did not record the song together (“What was I supposed to do?” she asks about being told of the planned duet.
“I couldn’t tell my manager that his best friend had raped me so I won’t record this song.”), but that they did perform it on stage one time.

Schuman also describes how she was a virgin at the time of her encounter with Carter, which she alleges took place at his apartment in Santa Monica.

Once Carter got her alone, Schuman says he unbuttoned her pants and performed oral sex.

He then demanded she reciprocate.

And then…

“He threw me on the bed and climbed on top of me. Again, I told him that I was a virgin and I didn’t want to have sex. I told him that I was saving myself for my future husband.

“I said it over and over again. He whispered in my ear as to entice me, ‘I could be your husband.'”

According to Schuman’s telling of it, there’s no way Carter could have believed the interaction was consensual.

“He was relentless, refusing to take my no’s for an answer,” she writes, adding:

“He was heavy, too heavy to get out from under him. Then I felt it, he put something inside of me.

“I asked him what it was and he whispered in my ear once more, ‘It’s all me baby.'”

Shortly after the alleged rape and awkward duet, Schuman says she “quickly lost interest in pursuing a career as a recording artist.”

For what reason?

“I was broken. I was tired. I was traumatized,” she wrote.

You can read Schuman’s entire description of what she says transpired between her and Carter HERE.

Soon after she went public with the accusation, which she says she did in order to inspire other victims to speak out, Schuman Tweeted appreciation to all her supporters.

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“I just want to thank everyone for the outpouring of love and support,” she wrote.

“Thank you for bearing witness to my story. Thank you for providing me a safe place to be open and vulnerable.

I love you all. Thank you for aiding me in the healing that I so desperately needed. I am free now.”

Schuman also included the hashtag “#metoo” with her entry, echoing the sentiment and the viral movement that has inspired countless women to speak out about the times they were victims of abuse of harassment.

See what we mean below:

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