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Jinger Duggar: Shamed by Fans Over Pregnancy

It’s no secret that Jinger Duggar Vuolo is pregnant. In fact, fans were just treated to a look at Jinger’s baby bump at 15 weeks.

Some fans are offering Jinger and Jeremy their congratulations. This will be the couple’s first child.

Others, however, appear to be shaming the couple for having “taken so long” to get pregnant.

After Jinger shared her good news — and a glimpse of her baby bump — fans and followers filled her Instagram comments.

“Yay!! They are finally pregnant!!”

That comment … didn’t need the finally part, but it’s overall positive and doesn’t seem to be mean-spirited.

“Omg yay!!! Finally.  I’m so happy for you guys.”

That’s more like it.

“Congratulations, so happy for you guys! My God bless you and your family.”

That one’s sweet and incorporates a reference to the Duggar family’s Christian faith. Totally appropriate.

Other commenters offered their heartfelt congratulations … while also congratulating the “late” timing of the news, since Jinger and Jeremy have been married for a “whopping” 15 months.

“You look gorgeous. So glad you took time to just enjoy being a married couple before having a baby. I suspect you planned it that way & good on you. After all, women are not just brood mares.”

She does look great. Though we suspect that Jim Bob would disagree about the brood mares comment.

“I am glad you waited a little bit to enjoy being a newlywed. There is nothing like being parents but you also need time to learn and grow as a couple first.”

That’s definitely very healthy!

“So cute. Congratulations , I happy you had a year to learn about each other without distractions.”

Most people learn about each other by dating, but the courtship-to-marriage pipeline for the Duggars is practically instantaneous. 

Then came a comment that sounded an awful lot like shaming.

“Finally I was wondering if y’all were just gonna use birth control unlike the rest of your sisters. But I guess it happened for ya all in good time.”

This sounds like, for one thing, they’re relieved. And there seems to be a judgmental tone to it.

I’m not the only one who picked up on this and similar comments as being rude; one commenter took their peers to task:

“You don’t know why she didn’t get pregnant right away, whether it was by choice or they were having trouble for some reason or if she’s had miscarriages.”

In fact, very miscarriages are so common that many women have them without realizing that they were ever pregnant. The commenter continues:

“Please think about that kind of comment for any pregnant woman, because some women actually want to get pregnant right away and it can be hurtful when you congratulate them for a timeline they didn’t plan on.”

A couple of these comments seemed a little off-topic but also worth mentioning, so that people can get the full spectrum of Jinger’s Instagram comments:

“Congrats to you Jinger & Jeremy can’t wait to start the new season on the 26th of February. I have been wondering what the heck was going on and finally saw a commercial last night. My husband always has the control but I have a lot of shows saved on the dvr”

This sounds less like a comment and more like a cry for help. One possibly misplaced in the Instagram comments of a Duggar, since the family eschews both “worldly” entertainment and any notion of gender equality.

And then there’s this:

“The Lord put you and your baby on my heart today to claim the Lords DNA In every cell in that little babies body! And for protection against any firey darts the enemy tries to throw in the growing process! The Holy Spirit is guarding your womb and you will have a healthy baby and God ordained delivery in Jesus name!”

That is perhaps the most colorful well-wishing that we’ve ever seen on Instagram.

Jim Bob has been criticized for doing his best to force his children to be “clones” of his ideology and lifestyle by deterring them from seeking higher education (or public education).

Jinger may be a deviation from that — or maybe she and Jeremy have been trying their hardest to conceive since they got married.

We don’t know. Frankly, it’s not our business when an adult gets pregnant or what they did or didn’t do along the way.

She’s pregnant now and anyone who considers themselves a real fan should just offer congratulations. Pariod.

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Jessa Duggar Gets Shamed For Dirty House, Fires Back at Haters

Last week, Jessa Duggar posted a series of Instagram photos chronicling the various unclean items around her less-than-immaculate home.

For many parents of young children, the images in Jessa’s confessional slideshow no doubt made for a relatable sight:

The mother of two showed the world her appliances and mirrors covered in fingerprints, a bed piled high with laundry, even a mound of soiled diapers waiting to be taken to out to the trash.

For the most part, fans were supportive and took the opportunity to offer their own admissions about allowing their housekeeping habits to fall by the wayside in response to the demands of caring for toddlers.

But this being the internet in 2017, there were more than a few haters and shamers, as well.

“No m’am. You had ONE job,” wrote one follower in response to Jessa’s post.

“This is so disgusting. You spend the most time in your home. Take pride in it and take care of it,” commented another.

It’s certainly not the first time Jessa’s parenting has been criticized.

But while Jessa may have let the negativity roll off her back in the past, this time she’s taking a stand against the mommy-shamers.

“We all try to put our best foot forward and are most comfortable posting our ‘highlight reel’ for people on social media to see. I could’ve waited 24 hrs and posted pics of everything freshly cleaned and looking beautiful (the stovetop is sparkling, dust bunnies have been removed, laundry is folded, bed sheets are washed, etc),” she wrote in a lengthy posted on response Instagram.

“Certainly people would find no fault with that… but many may find fault with themselves. I didn’t do that for a reason. Reality.”

Jessa went on to address the specifics of her situation:

“Sometimes you find yourself with an 8-month-old who isn’t sleeping through the night, and you don’t care that your bed has spit up on it–you’re tired. Throw a towel down on it and sleep!” she continued.

“Sometimes you don’t want to wash the dishes right after supper because your husband is finally home from work, and there’s only one golden hour of family time before babies are tucked into bed and hubby has to start in on his college homework… and so you put off dishes until then.”

Proving that her sense of humor hasn’t been broken by the judgemental response to her housekeeping, Jessa added:

“Oh, and the diapers. Our diaper pail is currently outta commission, and I’m awaiting a replacement. Yeah, they were stinky, but I had them bagged up and out of the house before the pic of them was even posted.”

Jessa concluded by summarizing what she had hoped to convey for the sake of her less receptive followers:

“My takeaway, and what I was trying to convey, was this: I could break down household tasks into manageable increments, with a few min here doing this, and a few min there doing that,” she wrote.

“And when it comes to quality time with kids, it’s really the same thing. It’s a few min here and a few min there. The point was not kids vs. house cleaning.

“The point was my heart’s goal to devote undivided time and attention to my kids– to make memories together each day, no matter what else I have on my schedule.”

“It’s all too easy for me to want to turn on Baby Einstein and get back to my project, and while that may be fine or necessary at times, it can’t replace pausing for moments here and there to give them a mama’s loving, playful, teaching, and engaging interaction.”

She added:

“P.S. We had a blessed day, the house was tidied right up, books were read, snuggles given, kids happy… and we all lived happily ever after.”

Wise words from a young mother who knows about the daily challenges of balancing priorities.

Watch Counting On online for more on Jessa’s parenting philosophy.

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Sean Young Claims Barbra Streisand Shamed Her for Calling Out Sexual Harassment

Sean Young says she was the Rose McGowan of her day … getting shamed by Hollywood’s elite — like Barbra Streisand — when she dared to accuse Warren Beatty of sexual harassment. Sean was on KLBJ-FM in Austin Thursday and when they asked her…

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Kate Middleton: Shamed For Getting Pregnant Again! (Seriously, People Are Insane!)

Proving yet again that women cannot win, and that people on the Internet are out-of-their-mind bonkers, Kate Middleton is being mom-shamed.

Yes, trolls are dragging her over her latest pregnancy.

Leave it to social media morons to turn some special, non-controversial news that we frankly could all use right now into “get on the pill.”

A 35-year-old woman is trying to raise children and live her best life, while really not doing anything objectionable. Yet she gets this.

Kensington Palace announced that Kate Middleton is pregnant with her third child, who will join George, 4, and Charlotte, 2, on Monday.

Very sweet, without a doubt. Unless you’re on Twitter, where people tell her to “get on the pill you slag” or liken her to a “conveyor belt.”

Seriously, those were actual comments.

Don’t ask us why a woman having a third biological child in her 30s is somehow newsworthy at all, let alone in a negative way, but …

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Basically, what you have here is Kate Middleton being shamed for … having sex with her husband? We really don’t see the point here. 

The idea that the Duke of Cambridge’s genitals “junk” is often up in there shouldn’t come as a surprise, nor offend anyone, in our opinion.

Isn’t it a woman’s business and hers alone – whether she’s married or not (which Kate is, it’s worth repeating) how many kids she wants?

We’re not judging them either, but Kailyn Lowry has three kids out of wedlock, and Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar have 19. Nineteen!

Kate truly cannot win no matter what here.

Imagine if the Duchess of Cambridge were, say, to end this pregnancy. Or not have children at all! She would be filleted online as selfish.

She would be heartless. Immoral. Worse.

Just wait until she starts to show, or in Kate’s case, barely show. Middleton has also been shamed for her body, and will likely be again.

Like a royal Sarah Stage, she will be “too skinny” to be in her third trimester. In the interim, she’s being “dramatic” about morning sickness.

Never mind that Kate’s morning sickness isn’t like most people’s; Middleton suffers from Hyperemesis Gravidarum, a severe form of it.

She’s been hospitalized as a result, which was actually the event that prompted the palace to announce her first pregnancy in late 2012.

Perhaps the only positive spin we can put on this is that Kate seems fairly adept at blocking out the noise and living life on her terms.

Being criticized and scrutinized for whatever you do is, sadly, par for the course in her life, and honestly, she’s been through a lot worse.

Not only will detractors belittle her life choices, they’ll attempt to scandalize and sexualize her when she’s simply going about her life.

The Kate Middleton topless photo scandal, for example, involved her intimate moments broadcast online for all to see, against her will.

It’s no way to live. Just because she’s a celebrity doesn’t mean that the rules of basic human decency don’t apply to how you treat her.

This week, she and William won a judgment in that case, which they took to court out on principle, despite not needing to collect damages.

A little pregnancy hating/jealousy/people trying way too hard to be snarky and funny pales in comparison to telephoto lens stalking.

Silver lining?

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Bill Cosby: Shamed by the University of Missouri!

Bill Cosby should spend the rest of his life in jail.

The comedian almost definitely raped dozens and dozens of women over the years, yet a jury of his peers could not reach a verdict this month and Cosby remains a free man.

It sucks and it’s stupid and we really hope Cosby is found guilty when he goes back on trial later this year.

In the meantime, however, at least the 79-year old is being publicly shame in some fashion, even if it’s not exactly the same as wearing an orange jumpsuit behind cold metal bars.

On Friday, the Board of Curators at the University of Missouri voted unanimously to strip Cosby of the doctorate in humane letters that he received in 1999.

This no-brainer of a decision was the first time the school had ever revoked an honorary degree.

But it’s probably the first time a celebrity to whom it had given this distinction was accused of over 50 women of sexual assault.

In a statement, University President Mun Choi cited assault allegations from all these women as the reason behind the move, saying Cosby’s alleged actions don’t reflect the school’s values.

Altogether, around 25 other schools across the nation have similarly revoked honorary degrees and awards given to Cosby since nearly 60 women accused him of drugging and raping them.

(Seriously! This guy is so guilty!)

About a year ago, the University of Connecticut took this step, also voting unanimously to rescind the Doctor of Fine Arts given to Cosby in 1996.

The resolution at the time cited Cosby’s own admissions in lawsuit depositions.

In one, for example, he admitted he had affairs with young models and actresses and had obtained quaaludes to give to women he wanted to have sex with.

(Seriously! This guy is so, so guilty!)

“The University respects the principles of due process and Mr. Cosby’s right to a fair and public trial on the criminal charges against him,” the resolution said last year, adding in detail:

“But the conduct which he admitted in his sworn testimony provides compelling reasons for the University of Connecticut to consider the revocation of his honorary degree.

“This is an extraordinary action that is not being taken lightly.”

We live in extraordinary times, that’s for sure.

Cosby apparently plans to tour the country this summer and host seminars to help young men avoid being charged with sexual assault.

We’re not making this up.

According to spokesman Andrew Wyatt, Cosby wants kids to “know what they’re facing when they’re hanging out and partying, when they’re doing certain things they shouldn’t be doing.”

Such a show of hubris on Cosby’s part is truly remarkable.

If anyone plans on paying money for these seminars, allow us to save you some money…

Here are the two ways to avoid the fate of Bill Cosby:

1. Do not drug women.

2. Do not rape women.

There. Boom. Done. You’re welcome.

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29 Stars Who Shamed Their Body-Shamers

Being in the spotlight might seem fabulous sometimes, but it also means more criticism.

From fans on social media to other celebrities who think they have a right to comment, there are way too many people who think it's okay to criticize celebrities for their appearances.

These 29 stars have dealt with such body-shaming, but their responses?

They totally shamed their body-shamers!

And we LOVE them for it.

1. Selena Gomez

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When Selena Gomez was insulted about her weight on Instagram, she responded with a photo of herself in a bathing suit. The caption read, “I love being happy with me y’all. #theresmoretolove.”

2. Ariel Winter

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Modern Family actress Ariel Winter receives negative comments all too often about her appearance and the clothes she wears, but her responses are always golden. “Dear sorry body-shamers, I looked HOT in that dress,” was just one of her responses. She also tweeted recently, “Know your value. Remember who you are. Love yourself. You’re perfect along with the hashtag: #stoptheshaming.

3. Tyra Banks

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Tyra Banks’ response to insults about her weight after photos were taken of her on the beach was simple and to the point. “Kiss my fat ass!”

4. Demi Lovato

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Demi Lovato has struggled with eating disorders, and that’s something she’s been open about. So when the haters starting criticizing her body, she was quick to respond. “Dear haters, you don’t have to like me cause I love you. Everyone’s equal, everyone has a soul, and everyone deserves to be loved.”

5. Kim Kardashian

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Like many others, Kim Kardashian was criticized for her weight gain during pregnancy, but her response on Twitter was pretty fabulous. “Anyone who has had a baby knows how hard it is to lose weight… your body totally changes! Making fun of me pregnant and making fun of me trying to lose weight now, shame on you. I’m not perfect, but I will never conform to your skinny standards. Sorry!”

6. Khloe Kardashian

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Khloe Kardashian has received a lot of criticism for her weight, often called “the fat one” of the Kardashian family. She consistently stands up for herself on the issue. “My weight doesn’t define who I am.”

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13 Kids Who Have Been Brutally Shamed By Mom & Dad

Remember on Game of Thrones? When Cersei was publicly shamed by the citizens of King's Landing?

Who cursed at her and threw horse feces at her while she walked naked through town?

Well… the following kids were NOT shamed in any way, shape or form along these lines by their parents.

But they were asked to pose for social media photos that revealed to the world the naughty ways in which they had recently behaved, with moms and dads hoping against hope that the actions would NOT be repeated.

See what we mean below:

1. I Learned It From Dad, Alright!

I learned it from dad alright
Why isn’t he wearing a sign?

2. Can’t We All Just Get Along?

Cant we all just get along
These siblings are about to find out.

3. Oh, Crap

Oh crap
Perhaps we should say instead: No crap, kid. Just stay away from all crap.

4. Lessons to be Learned

Lessons to be learned
Expensive lessons, apparently.

5. By They Looked So Pretty!

By they looked so pretty
My parents just didn’t get it.

6. It’s Called Hide and Seek!

Its called hide and seek
Daddy told me he likes that game.

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