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Shannon Beador: David Stopped Loving Me When I Got Fat!

Last month, Shannon Beader announced her split from husband David. After 17 years of marriage and three children, it’s over.

But the Real Housewives of Orange County star is giving new insight into how and why their union has come to an end.

And this is really not what anyone expected.

Shannon Beador has had a rough time in her personal life, lately.

Sure, she’s an affluent realty star with three beautiful teenage daughters and a number of supportive friends.

But she’s had some well-chronicled … issues.

Earlier this summer, Shannon Beador accused Vicki Gunvalson of making her fat.

While it’s true that Shannon was stress-eating (though she’s certainly not what we’d call “fat”) and also true that Vicki Gunvalson had been gossiping about Shannon’s marriage and adding to her stress, it rubbed fans the wrong way to hear her blame Vicki.

(Even if you don’t care for Vicki Gunvalson, she just doesn’t have power over other people’s actions and bodies)

Shannon Beador began exercising, and Tamra Judge vowed to help her out of fear that Shannon might die.

And we’ve heard again and again that Shannon’s weight gain was causing friction within her marriage, which is positively tragic.

You marry a person, not their waist measurements. But David was reportedly reluctant to touch her now that she was (slightly!) heavier than she once was.

When a couple suddenly stops having sex, sometimes many other problems that they’d previously been ignoring can rise to the surface.

And Shannon was understandably frustrated by David’s attitude.

But though it’s been reported that Shannon Beador might be ready to divorce David … that’s apparently not how this went down.

On The Real Housewives of Orange County‘s reunion special, Shannon revealed how things happened.

And it was apparently David who asked for their separation in the first place.

But Shannon says that she’s coping:

“It’s been really, really hard but I’m a mom and I’m a role model for my kids and it got to the point where I wasn’t teaching my daughters positive lessons.”

That sounds like a useful mindset. Some people find it easiest to remain strong if they’re being strong for someone else.

Especially for their teenage daughters.

“They deserve a happy and joyful home and that’s where we are now. … It is my job now to show the girls — I’m scared, I’m 53 years old, it’s the first time I’ve been out on my own, but I can do it.”

That sentence structure is a little odd, but suffice it to say that she’s not saying that her job is to show her daughters that she’s scared.

Rather, she’s showing them that she can overcome adversity and adapt to a new situation.

And that they can, too.

Children who haven’t been through a divorce before can often find them frightening and feel insecure.

Some even blame themselves.

Shannon and David are putting the girls first, which is absolutely the right thing to do.

“We’ve agreed for the benefit of our daughters to be amicable.”

That’s the right move. The children didn’t cause the marriage, the divorce, or their own births. It’s on the parents to accommodate them.

“It was always a tradition to go to Sunday night dinner so we meet him for dinner on Sunday nights.”

That’s good. A continued routine can help create a sense of stability for kids who might feel vulnerable.

“And we still go to the USC games and take the kids. Which is hard but it’s for the benefit of them.”

Sometimes, you just grin and bear it for the sake of your kids.

The revelation that Shannon and David split has apparently given Vicki a wake-up call about the harm that she can do by spreading rumors.

“I’m sad about it because I didn’t know and I thought they were doing really good,” Vicki said.

“If I was responsible for any of it, I’d feel awful.”

You know, we believe that.

“If I could take back that day, if I was hurting because you weren’t talking to me… I’m so sorry. We’ve been through bumpiness but I want the very best for you.”

Again, though, Vicki Gunvalson isn’t all-powerful. If her jabs at Shannon’s marriage caused it to fall apart, then it really didn’t have a solid foundation to begin with, did it?

Hopefully Shannon, if she seeks another relationship, can find someone who loves her for who she is and won’t recoil with disgust if her waist size changes.

Our best wishes go out to the Beador daughters in the hopes that their parents give them awesome presents in a game of one-upmanship.

Divorces are rarely fun, so they might as well enjoy one of the few potential benefits: insecure parents bribing them.

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‘Hills’ Star Frankie Delgado Stopped by Cops at Mayweather/McGregor Fight

Frankie Delgado isn’t quite the famous face he used to be, and cops had to step in when the former reality star tried to get through VIP at the Mayweather/McGregor fight. The incident went down when the ex-‘Hills’ star tried breezing past security…

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Electoral College: How Trump Can Still Be Stopped (Seriously)

It’s been one full month since Donald Trump won the electoral college vote in an astonishing turn of events that left much of the country reeling with shock, while pundits and prognosticators scrambled for answers.

In the weeks since, a debate has raged in the press and on social media regarding the strangely uneven nature of Trump’s victory.

While the President-elect bested Clinton by 74 pledged electors, he lost the popular vote by a margin of nearly 3 million.

While four previous presidents have won the White House despite losing the popular vote, none has ever lost by such a staggering total.

(The most recent example is George W. Bush’s victory over Al Gore, in which Bush lost by 543,895 popular votes, but still secured a win in the electoral college.)

Of course, in Trump’s case, there’s the added complication of the fact that he’s Donald Trump.

Many believe the duty of the Electoral College is to keep unqualified demagogues who use lies and popular prejudices to sway voters from ever assuming power.

And according to the Federalist Papers, they’re not wrong.

The oft-cited documents – penned by several Founding Fathers hoping to help convince Americans of the value and necessity of our Constitution – state that it is the obligation of electors to determine if a candidate is qualified, not beholden to foreign powers, and not engaged in demagogy before casting their vote. 

Those centuries-old essays enjoyed a resurgence in popularity this week thanks to a New York Times op-ed penned by Republican presidential elector Christopher Suprun who has vowed to vote against Trump on December 19.

One other elector has stepped down in protest of Trump, but the anti-Trump movement within the Electoral College will never amass the numbers it would need in order to sway the election.

However, according to a piece published today by the Washington Post, Democrats have one last, real shot at preventing Donald Trump from being sworn in on January 20.

(And no, it doesn’t involve Jill Stein’s recount efforts.)

According to the Post’s Michael F. Cannon, the best hope for the Never Trump movement still lies in Hillary Clinton.

But instead of continuing to fight Trump, the most effective way for the former Secretary of State to prevent him from taking office is to urge her electors not to vote for her, but instead to throw their support behind a more qualified Republican instead.

John Kasich, Mitt Romney and John McCain have been bandied about as the most conciliatory options, but really, just about any mainstream Republican would do.

In all likelihood, such a push would be joined by enough GOP electors to help a more experienced and less inflammatory Republican take the White House.

It would be a bold and wholly unprecedented move, but it might be the only remaining hope for those still hoping to block Donald Trump from the presidency

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